My House Rules and Protocol, other things I wish to share with you. How to Approach a Professional Dominatrix Respectfully?

This is an opportunity for readers to understand the etiquette, boundaries, time & emotional labour involved in my vetting process. There are a few keynotes I wish to share.

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How to Approach a Dominatrix Respectfully - Approach me with the understanding that I am not just a service provider but a sovereign entity who chooses to bestow her attention and time on those who prove themselves worthy. If you wish to play with me, take the time to understand my preferences, limits, and the services I offers. When you are genuinely interested in what I have to offer, it will set us on the right path, successful BDSM dynamic is built on mutual understanding and respect for each other's preferences and boundaries. Respect is a two-way street, I want to get to know you, dive into what we can explore and play with together.

Etiquette Guidelines-

Hygiene - high standards of personal hygiene are a mark of respect for my space and my attention.

Punctuality - If you are running more then 15 minutes late Without notice, session will still end at the scheduled time.

The deposit - A non refundable deposit is required to secure my time. It is a tribute for my preparation and time.

Payment - The remaining balance is due before we start the session.

Cancellation - For cancellation under 72 hours in advance, you may use 50% of your deposit to reschedule with the next month, but I will request full payment of the reschedule session before we go ahead. No refund is offered as the deposit compensate my time lost. Plan ahead. My time is valuable and not for free, paying the deposit does not entitled you to disrespect my time by emailing, call or text me excessively. Failure to comply will result in termination of all contact. If someone consistently disrespects my time, I cut ties. I set these clear boundaries, because they are essential for me to manage my busy schedule and my valued patrons. I am not available 24/7. Acknowledge that my time is a professional service. Be respectful to someone who's trying to create a safe, enjoyable experience for you.

Be Polite and Concise- Keep introductory messages short, respectful, and to the point.

Be honest about your desires -  I understand sometime one may find it hard to articulate what you want, choice can be overwhelming, in these circumstances I like to reverse engineer the problem, reasoning backwards, we can start with a list of NOs, and along the way we discard what that does not fit. Your input will help me to craft an experience that aligns with both your boundaries and my interests.

Safewords, Mercy, Signals -  Safewords ensure ongoing consent, to indicate a need for an immediate stop, a need to slow down or check in. Sometime is a rest stop. Signals/ non verbal mercy are used when someone cannot speak due to physical restraint, being in subspace, or other reasons. Occasionally as dominate, I call pause or will stop in a scene, if I believe someone is so deep in Subspace that they can no longer give consent ( Subspace - essentially a rush of endorphins, which can impact ones ability to recognize their limits or pain they’re feeling, they may forget what safe word was agreed upon.) When they can no longer give consent in this altered, euphoric state where judgment is impaired. Subspace can altered one's perceptions, sense of time, distorted senses, impair your ability to make clear decisions. Therefore, it's its crucial that we make a safe slow transition out of subspace, NO chance of committing to activities in the high that one may later regret.

Sadomasochistic satisfaction.

Relinquish control - I invite you to take introspection, to decide what you really want when surrender to me, consensually, do you genuinely wants to be control or used. I will take as much power and control as you are willing to give, in return, I offer you structure, guidance. I lead, you follow. For me a submissive's choice to surrender is power, strength and deep trust for your dominate. My role as the dominate is someone who will care for you when you are most vulnerable, when you have an utter lack of control. My craft is about designing a scene that serves both parties, even—and especially—when power is deliberately unequal. The journey is about a creating a container for trust, growth, devotion and kink intimacy. Kink experience with me is not just about spending, it’s about surrender.

Intermissions - In complex long or physically demanding session, I like to schedule breaks, its non negotiable. Both top and bottom have time to re-hydrate, use the bathroom, refuel. I find small breaks help to maintain performance throughout extended scene and prevent burnout.

Thankyou for reading. My vetting process exists to protect my energy, my time, and the integrity of my work. If you are seeking a Dominant who leads with structure, discernment, and care, and you are prepared to meet me with an open mind and respect, then we may be aligned.

This is an invitation, to enter thoughtfully, or not at all.